There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens.Ecclesiastes 3: 1
In life there comes with transition or change.
We are not going to stayed the same forever whether it’s a new job, new house, new baby, our status and even something small like a new hairstyle, theres so many change we will face in this life. Some of us are more adapt at change, some of us resist it, some of us adapt quickly and some of us take times. Life comes with transition. One of the big change that we choose to is getting married. Getting married is not that easy because you’re transition from single to married, from being on your own to be with someone that you loved. When there term “love” is sound easy right? No that easy my friend. Love also challenge. You will face transitional stress in marriage. I had experience it but thanks to God and my husband, we can go through it so far. So, here my tips on reducing transitional stress in marriage.
Tip #1: Embrace the transitional stress
After get married, you should expect there will be transitional stress. It’s not going to be easy ride my friends. I don’t ask you to overthink but adjust your expectation in marriage. Even you guys know each other for so long but when come to marriage, it’s feel so weird.
Before this, you guys just meet each other after “bersiap-siap” and look like human but after get married, you guys see each other from 0 to when you look your best. Maybe some of us, feel stressful about this. Its take time to feel so comfortable with each others even after know each other for so long, trust me! This can be stressful for some of us. As for me, I already shown my worst to my husband before, since we always go for outing with our church members before, so we had seen our morning face many times..haha. This is just one of it. More to comes so embrace the transitional stress.
Tips #2: Living the moment and be there for each other
You already aware there will be transitional stress in marriage so you should have an understanding how to approach change emotionally, spiritually and mentally can allow transition to transform our marriage into something stronger and more viable than ever before. Stress doesn’t have to be negative thing, how you and your spouse view stress, as well as how you choose to respond to it, has everything to do with whether it leaves as positive on your home. God has gifted us with the ability to decide how we react to life’s transition.
Tips #3: Take it easy, chill!
We can do this through fun music, humor or simply letting each other’s more tired emotions roll off your back. Don’t take every response personal. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt, show grace! Take every moment easy and chill!
Tips #4: Remember to always encourage each other in the Lord
To go through transitional stress, always remember to always encourage each other in the Lord.
“I can do all things through Him who gives me strength” – Philippians 4: 13
Always remind yourself of this. Remind your spouse of this. Rehearse it in your thoughts and words.
Tips #5: Pray
The last tips ( but not the least) is to pray. Always pray. I’ve been through MDD before and my husband is my strong support, we always pray for each other. I love this in our relationship. We really love to pray for each other.
I hope you learn something from this article today.
Aya, Mrs Maclare ❤