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For today topic, I am hesitate actually because I am no expert on this, I am still learning and we just on our first year marriage and I know that, we have a lot to learn and there will be many challenges ahead, I am aware of that but I love to read about how to maintain strong relationship/marriage post baby so I want to share this with all new parent out there.
For me, I love to know challenges beforehand, learn from other experiences and I know that, that will be not avoid me from marriage challenges but for me, I least I know what going to happen and know what to do. Honestly, having a baby after one month getting married its very challenging but I am grateful!
I can say, I still want to have my husband full attention and I knew my husband also want the same but we are blessed so we get along with this and along the way we give our attention to each others.
So, here I share how to keep your marriage strong post baby based on my experience and what I read and currently learn.
How to keep your marriage strong post-baby:
- Making marriage a priority
Begin by making marriage a priority. Recognise that a loving marriage is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children as well as yourself.
Recently, we celebrated my husband’s birthday and we took photos together and we so happy about it and at the same time, our son smile so bright when he saw us laughed happily. For me, that the happiest moment. So, it’s very important to making marriage a priority. When you making marriage priority, you will have happy relationship. When you had happy relationship, you also will have happy family.
How to making marriage a priority? Just spend time for each other, listen like when you couple time and do what you guys love.
- Check in with your spouse regularly
Start a conversation with your spouse, acknowledging that you miss time together and would like to make your relationship a priority in spite of the new demands and stressors. Ask ” How can I help? ”
To keep your marriage strong, the couples need to regularly checking in their spouse. First, ask what they’ve been doing everyday, I know its getting boring to asked this everyday but be creative on how to ask about it. Most importantly, please regularly checking in your spouse.
I love to asked my husband ” How’s your day today?” at the end of the day or when we back from work even though I asked that everyday…haha, I know its so boring to asked and every time the answer is the same but I don’t really care. As long as I ask him and if he didn’t asked me, I will just share my day with him. My husband can’t read my mind so I just share with him.
- Find small everyday moments
“Just share each other day everyday or just share funny videos or audios with your spouse. Be intentional about finding time to chat daily to keep up on what is going on in each other’s lives. I think another great way is sharing every moment on your social media especially stories.
I love to chat and eat with my husband in the middle of night hahaha. It’s not healthy but I love that moment.
- Be sure to show love
The words are not enough, each of you needs to show love in the manner the other person wants to receive love. Words and actions will provide the nurturance you both seek and will bring mutual fulfilment and satisfaction.
Don’t be shy to show love. We just lived once so just show the love to your partner. Be creative!
- Don’t forget to have fun
I love having fun with my husband. I feel the happiest whenever I have fun with my husband. We love to have fun by eating ice cream, walking around with our son and watch movies together. I just love that. No matter what stuff you doing for fun, make sure truly have fun.
- Make a list of things you guys enjoy pre- baby
I’m sure that there a lot of things you guys enjoy pre baby. So, make a list or if you’re not fun of making list, talk or remember about it. Then, talk to your husband whether we can do that now.
I didn’t do this but I remember what we love to do pre-baby. We love to go eat kfc outside, drink coffee at coffee shop and many more.
I hope these list can inspired you to make your marriage stronger post baby. Don’t give up if its feel so hard. Please remember how hard for you guys to come to this stage so please appreciate each other while we still breathing and together.