Hello all! Welcome back to my blog.
Before I get married, I used to listen to my sisters stories about their motherhood journey especially their giving birth stories, I feel scared whenever hear their stories. After we got married, I told my husband I’m scared to giving birth but my husband always told me “I will be with you so don’t be scared!”. So, I feel less scared because of that. After we found out I was pregnant, to be really honest, I started to imagined how scared it will be but the happiness cover that scary feeling haha. I know motherhood will be different kind of journey but I never understand how it will be when I’m really on it. Now, I’m go through this motherhood for 8 months, I noticed some lessons that worth to share with new mom out there.
- Not everything will go as planned… and that’s okay
I had a very challenging pregnancy as I’m pregnant during the pandemic. Before the pandemic, I was too excited because I want my husband to accompany me to give birth. But, its not go as we planned. I gave birth alone without my husband due to hospital policy. But, its okay.
After I deliver our baby, I thought we can discharged from hospital after two days. But, it’s not go that way too. We need to stayed at hospital for four days because hospital need to monitor our condition. I just be patient about it! Again… its not goes as I planned.
Just after we back home, just one day, my son admitted to NICU at Hospital Putrajaya due to jaundice..
I can say, everything goes not as I planned but now, I think of it, its okay. There something good happened.
Its okay when everything not go as you planned. Always look at positive side of the situation and enjoy the ride.
- Breastfeeding is not what I think
I hadn’t given much thought to breastfeeding before delivery. I assumed it would just come naturally. I was wrong! After I deliver my baby and we stay at wad, I thought I can directly feed my baby but I just don’t know the right techniques. I got poor latch, I tried many times but still its not succeed. I felt such a failure. I feel so frustrated. I was crying because I can’t do it. I even paid lactation consultant to help me. Just a one time session but due to my nipple situation, my baby still can’t latch so after discussed with my husband, we decided to go for exclusive pumping. Meaning, I pumping the breastmilk and feed our son with bottle.
Pumping is another challenge. I tried my best to do it exclusively for my son but I just can do it for 4 months. After 4 months, my son drink formula milk and breastmilk and eventually now, he just drink formula milk and that okay.
Lesson I learned here is don’t push yourself too hard on breastfeeding, don’t stress.
- Your house doesn’t have to be a model home
Since I entering our house, I love to keeping our home clean and organized. I love get inspired from Pinterest and I love all Ikea items because its look clean and minimal. I just love to see my house like in Pinterest.
Nowadays, our house look so different. haha
There’s 2 mattress permanently at our living room because our son love or used to sleep there. All items at TV racks need to put inside the box. No more Pinterest inspired living room but kid friendly home ( we tried so hard on this now).
- It goes very fast
The constant cycle of feeding, changing diapers and soothing a fussy newborn seemed never ending but without realised, that moment already passed. Now our baby is 9 months and there many milestones has been hit and he growing up so fast. Whenever think of it, I will get emotional. Certain days can seem so long but the weeks, months seem to pass by very fast. Every month my son’s behaviour keep changing and we don’t always know how to approach it.
So far, I realized that motherhood is an amazing journey. There so much to learn and just like that, my son will be one year and just like that two years….arghhh. Someday, my son will be able to do everything on his own until then, i will make the most of the time we have together. I will cherish every moment, always prioritize family and try my best not to blink…haha.
Cherish and enjoy the moment.