Pregnancy can bring mix of feelings and not all of them are good.
You will have a rollercoaster of emotional, from joy, excitement, feeling overwhelmed, stress, anxiety, panicking… its common for a new mom but its a little bit harder now because its pandemic and most of the time, we are on our own, isolated at our home.
As a experience pregnant women, I had experience this before. For me, its very important to take care of your mental health during this stage, make yourself priority because you are growing a baby and you deserve to take good care of you.
Here are some simple tips for taking care of your mental health during your pregnancy. Please take note, I am not expert on mental health so if you face severe kind of mental health, please go consult nearby doctor ya.
Talk about it
Don’t be alone in your pregnancy journey. Talk it out to your husband or your trusted friend. Its pretty normal to feel anxious during your pregnancy because this huge change in your life.Don’t try to do this alone, okay? Talk about your worries to your husband, trusted friend and family because that can help to ease your mind and even find the solution for your worries. You can join online group on pregnancy apps such as Baby Centre and theAsianParent. On that platform, they talked a lot about pregnancy topics there so you can learn and read about other mother experience there but if you sense something wrong with you and your pregnancy, please see your doctor, don’t solely depends on what on the apps.
During your 9 months pregnancy, its not worth it to worries about thing that maybe never happen pon. Its better to preparing yourself for a positive birth because this not only increase your chance of birth experience but it will make your pregnancy less stressful and more enjoyable. Positive affirmations and positive thinking during your pregnancy is good for your mental health and its proven! So, don’t always worry too much. And again, if you feel something is wrong, trust you gut and go see the doctor okay?
Understand the birth process
I used to feel scared whenever I think of giving birth, I heard the raw stories from my sisters and friends, errr… thats make me even scared. Before I get married to my husband, I did told him, I am really scared to get pregnant and giving birth but when my husband affirmed me, he will be always with me, don’t be scared, I feel less scared so I am ready for it.After we get pregnant, we joined the antenatal workshop to understand the pregnancy, birth process and post pregnancy care. From that workshop, we learned a lot about all the process, I come to understand and feel secure about the process. And, again, dari kamu saja bah ( my husband always told me this) so I always remind myself, not to be scared because there will be expert to take care of me during my giving birth. So, its good to have the knowledge before its happen.
Get your husband involved
During my pregnancy, most of the time, just me and my husband, it’s pandemic after all. I can’t really meet my friends and church-mate. We just stayed at our home. So, during my first pregnancy, my husband really involved from the beginning. He make an effort to read online about pregnancy, that and this. He also try his best to prepared what I need especially food and my comfort. I am so grateful for this. I can’t imagine my pregnancy without him and I really salute mom that pregnant and her husband work somewhere else. Its hard but sometimes that’s life.
I’m not sure if I can put this here because during my pregnancy, I can say I am not really active because most of my pregnancy duration, its PKP and can’t really go out! Even go around my house also can’t. But, after the announcement our area is PKPP, then we take time to walking at park. As the due date is nearby, my waist is so hurtful whenever I tried to be active. But, stay active is good for you. Don’t be like me! haha. And, go out is also good for your mental health.
Take it easy and everything will be okay!
For me, the pregnancy supposed to be enjoyable moment because you carried your baby for 9 months and you don’t worry who going to take care of your baby. While you on it, enjoy the moment. There will be so many news(bad and good) from doctor and nurses, take it seriously but don’t feel so stress about it, chill and everything will be okay! Remember, trust your body will doing well ya!
That’s it! Being able to pregnant is one of the enjoyable moment in my life. I can say, after my first experience being a pregnant women, I love being pregnant! All my husband’s attention on me, I can eat “whatever” I want, I no worries about my belly look like haha and I feel so women when I’m pregnant! Its not that women that not able to pregnant is not so women, they are women too but its different kind of feeling when you’re experience being pregnant. But, not everytime is enjoyable moment, there’s a lot of down too. The mood swings, the sensitivity, the painful sana sini, and the anxiety to giving birth hahaha, I can say, just take care of your mental health during your pregnancy, don’t risky your baby and yourself, okay!
Have a happy pregnancy moms!